Harper

"You're imperfect, and you're wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging." - Brené Brown  

I haven't felt inspired to write in a long time, today felt different. This morning I was listening to an article about how we change over time. How the details of who we were at 4 or 9 are often lost to us. The little explorer who climbed trees, or the child that loved reading books, making pillow forts and hiding in cubby houses. These past selves remembered mostly by those around us, adults, friends, teachers, some influencing or shaping our lives. Bearing witness to the little personalities, confident or shy, even daring or a little wise, that went on to become fully fledged adults. But in adulthood we shift and change too, moving through different chapters. We can be so different at 16 to 25, changing again as we move through our 30s and 40s. At each stage, shifting tastes and perspectives. Our inner stories and sense of self adapting, perhaps on the surface unrecognisable to the person we once were. Who can tell which self will be staring back in the mirror at 70 or 82? Are w

"It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for - and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.  It doesn't inte rest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool - for love - for your dreams - for the adventure of being alive." Oriah

If I free myself from the illusion of legacy. And realise the truth. That everything I achieve, that I create, will one day, ultimately, be dust. Then I am able to play openly and wholeheartedly in the sands of creativity. Knowing the tides of time will clear my mistakes as well as my victories. Leaving behind only the faintest trace of my existence. In that knowledge I am unafraid, emboldened. To take leaps of faith and action far greater than the self-conscious longings for immortality can ever truly realise.

I am the only person who can see these problems, because they are mine. As I heal myself, I stop projecting my pain out onto the rest of the world   I tell myself, "Stop trying to save the world and save yourself Direct your love inward and heal Direct your logic outward, think and do your work." "Stop trying to fix the world Love and heal yourself Nurture that inner child, that child needs you."   "You can be logical later, be kind and loving now. That is what your heart needs."   "Believe in you.  Believe that you can do good things, and then you will. Just start, take that first step, believe in you." June 2013

Sometimes the best moments are the ones when you realise you had cause to have faith in yourself and your instincts all along.

 

How can you measure if you are making a good life for yourself? Imagine how your story will be told at your funeral, who will be speaking and sharing their love for you with the room? If you are happy with what you just imagined, then you are probably on the right track. If not? Time to make some changes. ♡◇

There is a space you can find. Sometimes. After you have gone through more than you thought you could bare. After you have lost and longed, waited and hoped. Only to lose it all again and again. In that place, sometimes, a little bird sings. It sings a song of hope, love and life. It is the only true song there is.

Emotional intelligence is an essential aspect of leading a full life.  Our society excels at technological intelligence, but emotional intelligence still lags behind. The world would be a different place if we all learned a little emotional intelligence. I try to teach and model aspects of emotional intelligence to my students in every lesson.